“I don’t know about counseling…” and Christian Counseling? Can’t I just go to a pastor for free? Doesn’t science contradict the bible? … Ahhh, yes! I hear this ALL the time! Here are a few common myths about Christian counseling! Yes, I love pastors and their calling! They are [...]
I think this is a great question and a very valid question to have so I wanted to take some time to clarify what all it is that therapists do for you as their client. Right off the bat I will clarify one common misconception: I DO NOT GET PAID [...]
No parents are perfect, but sometimes parents are painfully imperfect. Sometimes parents directly instill fear, neglect, lovelessness, worthlessness, rejection, self-hate, abandonment, and anger that children live with. When these hurting children grow up to be adults they struggle. The challenges we face in childhood become the struggles of our adulthood. [...]
I have learned over the years of counseling that the holidays are packed full of emotions. For most it is a mix of pleasant and unpleasant emotional experiences adding to the frustration and complexity of the holiday season. STRESS DEPRESSION ANXIETY LONELINESS GRIEF FAMILY DYSFUNCTION EXHAUSTION OVERWHELM GUILT SHAME [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wAkQRdF227E I want to open this blog with an exercise: Before you read any further, what is your definition of peace? Write it down and think about it. Make sure you are satisfied with how you have defined, experienced, and expect peace to look and feel in your life. How [...]
This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! 2 Corinthians 5:17 This is a scripture that has been pulling at my heart lately. Time and time again we are attacked that “there is no way [...]
Wow! How many times have you asked God “WHY?!” Why me…why the good people… why not the bad people… why is a powerful word when it is packed full of emotions. When life has left you hurting it seems to almost be natural instinct to go to God in anger [...]
Okay, here is a quick 1, 2, punch! Stop comparing your life to everyone else’s around you, you are not them… YOU ARE UNIQUELY YOU! If I could challenge you with anything it would be to replace the word normal with the word healthy. “Is my relationship normal?” but listen [...]
Forgiveness is a word I hear often in the counseling setting. “I know I need to forgive so-and-so...” or “I could NEVER forgive so-and-so…” I understand every angle of forgiveness from my client’s perspective when they are speaking from pain, hurt, anger, and betrayal. Forgiveness is not a natural instinct [...]
Emotion. It can be many things. Emotion is joy, celebratory, excited, happy, peaceful, love. Yes, emotion is all of this. But what happens when emotion is deep? Or painful? What happens when emotions break past your threshold of tolerance and penetrate your very soul? What happens when emotions break us? [...]